How do you do it?
That is the question Matt and myself get asked all of the time. The simple answer is grace and team work. We do what we love with who we love. In that, we have a special grace. We roll with the waves and go with the tide. Neither one of us feel threatened by each other's positions, rather we compliment each other.
Our dreams are important to us, so is our family. We have learned how to blend them so we can do both well. It's all about choices and communication. We have learned to rely heavily on trust and vulnerability. We have to first be real with each other and share our hearts. It is very intimate to be doing business with your life partner as well as raising children. We have gotten really good at telling each other about ourselves and not about the other person. We have learned to ask a lot of questions rather than make assumptions, start blaming, making accusations, and judging each others motives and intentions. Most of the time we consciously take turns putting each others needs before our own. Other times we operate out of common goals. All in all we put the necessary work and effort into relationship so our life source is grounded in safety and security.
We are passionate about equipping others, so it is important we have the right tools to give them as well. Once people start operating out of fear, they make poor decisions by allowing panic and anxiety to set in. It is our goal to cultivate confident people who navigate their world from a place of peace. We want their rational to come from integrity and character, which is firmly rooted in perseverance, strength, hope, and joy.
This includes our children. We intentionally focus on drawing out their identity from within, teaching them how to be the captain of their ship and not to try to control their environment.
We encourage healthy risk taking. If you are going to go after your ambitions, you must start somewhere. You can't wait hoping someday you will miraculously be good at something.
We value education. It is important to be life long learners; remaining humble and never thinking you have finally arrived. It is vital to receive feedback and critique as to develop as a person.
We are okay with mistakes. They are a great teacher. If you are trying, inevitably you are going to make mistakes. We don't expect perphectionism, just your best effort.
We live where messes are excepted and offer help in the clean up process. If you are living, you will have to learn how to clean up after yourself. It is all apart of growing into maturity. Taking responsibility for your actions and living with your consequences will allow you to have greater influence in empowering others.
We are not afraid of emotions. Feelings are what make us human. They can be an indicator of intuition, paradigms, or personality. However, they are not right or wrong. So feelings should not be a guide to navigate life, rather they should be a starting point of discussion. Once processed, feelings can change. The truth is the truth regardless of our feelings, therefore we must learn how to question ourselves so we come to healthy conclusions.
Last of all, learning to be wise leaders. Rallying those who believe in the vision we carry is important. What we have taken on is no small task. We are getting better at delegating authority, drawing out the strengths and giftings of those around us as well as appreciating people who cheer us on, who want to see us achieve our goals. Our sincere desire is for other people to be inspired and catch a vision for their own journey.
People look at us and see how happy we are. They see us accomplishing a lot. What they don't always see is the long hours, the focused attention, the hard work, and sheer determination it takes to live life to it's fullest. Behind the scenes we have learned to navigate copious amounts of disappointments, hurts, and frustration. We have trudged through tears and questioned our abilities. Through all of that, it takes more than getting out of the boat to walk on water. It requires our gaze to focus on the one who called us out there in the first place.
Join us: sink or swim- we are jumping in.